10 Ways To Say NO
One of the reasons people get tied down to where they do not want to be, is because they have refused to say no to those circumstances that have continually tied them down. Whether it's a human factor or a nagging situation, learning to say no at the right time, place and in the right manner, gives you much more than feeling fulfilled, it also clears the path for you to live without blaming yourself or getting unnecessarily angry at yourself.
Your inability to say no will affect your productivity and efficiency, being the result of taking on too many commitments, and when you take on too many things at a time, performance or excellent performance becomes a problem. Do you have difficulty saying "no"? Are you always trying to be nice to others at your expense?
Well, you’re not alone. For some reasons, many people have ditched the word
'no', to hurt themselves while they
please others. This is not to say that you shouldn't be nice to people, but do
not be unfair to yourself while being nice to people.
Why you find it difficult to say "NO".
You don't want to hurt the other person’s feelings - Saying 'no', necessarily doesn't mean hurting other people's feelings.
It all depends on how you say it and your intent for saying no. Although you
necessarily do not have to justify your reason for saying 'no', it is a great
Personal development practice to ensure it's best for you when you do so.
You don't
want to disappoint the person you’re
saying 'no' to: We all get disappointed once in a while, and
even nature as taught us to live by disappointments sometimes; when you can't
help it, acknowledge it, and let the other person know, it's because you can't
just fit it in.
Willingness to help: Sometimes, we feel the urge to help, even if the weight
pulls us down. Imagine a Camel on the Sahara, each time it takes on this
particular luggage, it walks six steps and then it goes down, for three
consecutive attempts it happened so, isn't time to take a break? That is
exactly what happens to you when you aim to help out, even though you are not
capable of helping out. Identify it, say it nicely and free your mind. If you
go ahead, you may stop mid-way and that hurts more on both sides.
You want
to keep a long lasting relationship- If you
must know, what keeps relationship, is being a true honest self, right from the
outset. When you continually please
people for the wrong reasons, you will someday come to a point, where you can
go no further and this is when you begin to disappoint people . You however
have a duty to live up to it and take the step, knowing how to say no.
Don't want to be
rude: This is
just a 'mind -set', that when you say 'no', you are being rude .
Saying 'no' does not necessarily mean
being rude, rather the manner with which you say it, may be rude, and that is
why you need to learn how to say 'no' nicely.
You want
to be seen and called "Nice"- The only nice thing
about being nice is feeling soulfully nice.
10 Simple Ways To Say “No”
Rather than have it as a burden on you, just follow these simple ways to turn down things or situations you sincerely can't help.
1. "I Will not be able to this at this time."
2."No, I can’t."
3."This is not a really good time as I’m in the middle of something."
4."I will be privileged to assist once I complete this project".
5."No, not now, you may get in touch later".
6. "I’d love to do this, but …"
7." I'm fully booked at the moment, and will not be able to take up more responsibilities".
8."I’m not the best person to help on this."
9."How could you expect me to do a thing like that for you?"
10."I wish I could help..."
