Value your creation and appreciate your existence

Early one morning, as I hurried to work, I realized I had forgotten to do a number of things which I ought to have done; I had probably overslept the previous night. As I got to the train station, I remembered I had to make a call before boarding the train, and as I took out my phone from my bag, I was utterly surprised that the battery had gone completely flat, leaving my heart to pound fiercely, invading every possible option for a resolve to my problem. While I thought of what to do, I saw the train approached my platform, I knew once I got on to it there was no more hope for me being an underground train, even if I got to borrow a phone from someone nice, which is less likely to happen. In a flash of seconds, the train pulled by and hesitantly I hopped on, otherwise I was going to be late for work.

Sitting opposite a gentle man and a lady both of whom I was sure were going to work as well, I tried to juggle, my chances of making my call once I got to work wishing that things will not get out of hands. As I thought harder, unconsciously, I looked at the man and woman sitting right opposite me, as a line of their discussion pinched me. They weren’t particularly talking in low tones so it was easy to hear every of their conversation. “…do you know that not being sent for that training and the events after it has taught me to appreciate everything about life” the man said. I definitely couldn’t ask why, but there was an indication of something extraordinary about what he had said. Luckily, he continued. “I was really furious when I learnt of the list and realized my name was not on it, but look at me today, I am well and alive. Not that I rejoice that some of my colleagues have plunged to death as a result of a plane crash on their way from Dubai, where they had the training course, I’m just grateful that I’m alive today. So, there is a reason to appreciate and gratify whatever comes your way.” He said.

Having heard that, I had an idea of what he was trying to say and it beckoned back to me how well you should appreciate every situation you find yourself, perhaps there is always something to learn and value with every passing moment. From that day, I began to think good of my situation even the one I was facing at that moment. I said to myself; it was probably for a good reason and of course, it started manifesting before I got off the train. When you appreciate your situation you will open doors to explore greater opportunities coming forth.

Appreciation starts from as little as valuing our bodies and every part of it. Firstly, take a few moments from now, sit and begin to appreciate your body. It has taken you on so many adventures and experiences. No matter what your current situation is, be thankful that you are alive, even if your health is far from being perfect, you should still appreciate your body because in its appreciation you will open doors to explore ways of getting better. Appreciation lightens the heart and helps you feel better rather than be gloomy. Everyone has the ability of self-healing when you feel positive about your state of health when you are not very well. The likelihood of getting well or not depends greatly on how you feel about yourself.

On a general note, taking time to appreciate your body from top to toes will make you realize what a fabulous creation you are.

Learn to appreciate the food you eat, bless it and cherish it. There are too many things that could be appreciated in one’s life that will lead to increase in the good things of life than we can count; Families, Friends, work, the opportunity of every second witnessed alive, nature and lots more. Some people go through some difficult times so that they may move further to higher levels of endowments. While some people take courage and weather it through, others stop mid- way and botch the opportunity. Appreciation and gratitude are virtues.

I’ve heard so many people say, what is there to appreciate when I don’t have a job, money I require to meet my needs, a home to cherish and so on- but you will be surprised that feeling positive about these moments and believing that there opportunities to explore at such times, bring about new things you could never have imagined. Appreciation breeds self-esteem.



For example, when someone becomes unemployed; why not see it as a means to get to a next level of achievement? Why not see it as an opportunity to explore other avenues? Why not see a positive side to it. Why not search within and develop something new? Everybody has their creative potentials. After all, great things start from small beginnings and often, it is by turning tough times to tantalizing moments that human beings really get great. However, that can only be done when you see such situations as one for you to appreciate your other skills and maximise your potentials with the time you’ve got, and so does it apply to many other disappointing aspects and moments in life. There is always a blessing in every disappointment but you need to look really deeply to identify and appreciate it. Appreciation and gratification come with so many advantages.

Set your Goals above your fear

“Fear is the secret robber that steals away your joy.”

You would have subjected yourself to the dictates of fear at some point in life no doubt and this is nothing but forming a fringe between you and your success. Fear though, is a natural feeling that no individual can be blamed for accepting, your ability to face your fear and overcome it, is an action statement that makes or mars your success. I do not believe that there are certain fears in life that are beyond being overcome, not even the fear of death, for not until death strikes should any being stop striving.

Take for example; a situation where a person is diagnosed of a chronic or life-threatening ailment; often for the fear of dying or becoming seriously ill, a lot of people lose hope of recovery even before their symptoms become physically visible, thereby giving way for a complete breakdown of their entire system. I have seen people who on the other side, have come out triumphantly, living up to the challenges of such situations, with determination and more than not, succeeded with life. There is no doubt that a change of attitude towards those things we see as difficult or challenging is the key for bringing down our fears.

Reasons why people restrain fear:

Not to be rejected- For the fear of being rejected, ridiculed or your ideas being cast off, a lot of people have failed to take steps that will lead to empowering them and taking control of their lives. When you fear that you will be rejected and thereby decide not to explore your potentials, you are in essence rejecting yourself.

To avoid temporary discomfort-When you retreat from the challenges you fear, you will never achieve those goals and aspirations you aim for due to your inability to fully develop your skills and talent and this would only give you the relief from the discomforts you will initially go through, having stepped forward for the big challenge. Essentially, tackling fear is about taking bold steps and believing you are stronger than your fears to the point of overcoming whatever the fear is. However, it is good to note that it is not an easy task. It is one that has to do with you stepping out of your comfort zone and be slightly discomforted. For example, having to learn new skills, change career, meet new prospects or taking up any new challenges, could stretch you out of your usual bounds, but not willing to take action is allowing fear to rob you of your creativity, power and ability.

Not to be labelled a failure- It is natural that the initial stage of any procedure gets unsteady, and we all know that it takes time to develop one’s skill or talent at doing anything. The most important thing is the willingness to it squarely. Sometimes, when you want to impress the world around you, you will end up losing focus because your aims will be submerged. You should follow your dreams push through fear and build your confidence. Fortunately too, when you develop yourself in a particular area, you will be marvelled at how you will discover more of your potentials in other areas.

When you do not confront the fears that stand in opposition to your goals, you will only Sabotage your success, destroy your confidence, diminish your self esteem and sink yourself in the strength of your inadequacies. For queries and comments on the articles on this page, please email writingcrafts350@gmail.com

All that should matter is your happiness.

Happiness has been defined as feeling or showing pleasure, contentment or joy over something, someone or an action. Happiness is definitely one of those positives that have been approved as a human right which every individual has a moral justification to enjoy.

If you look around quite deeply, you will see that there is much more to be happy about than we realise. However, more studies showed, more than ever before that there are quite a lot more people battling with wholesome happiness.

It is true that every individual has a baseline of happiness which is carved naturally or artificially, but whatever your baseline is, you can decide now to be a lot happier, if you really want to be. It is good to note that being happy is not as easy as some people think, neither is it as free as the air we breathe. It requires a lot of skills, determination to be happy and a retraining of your mind and brains. It is a challenge that needs conscious effort, and must be seen as a priority if you truly want to be happy.

Happiness should thrive from your inside and glow through and all over you. It is drawn from within and carries its weight on your perception of life and your attitudes towards everyday living.

This is not to undermine the fact that occasionally, you will be faced by some complex situations, in life. However, meanings are given to such words as “complex”, based on your perception of it. Training yourself to handle and overcome difficult times is the tool you need to keep you over negative emotions that spills over and lives longer with you. There is no such situation as impossible to overcome.

In our later articles on writingcrafts, you will be reading about different kinds of situations that could cause unhappiness in an individual’s life and how to handle and overcome these situations.





To help you build a happier life, here are some of the few simple things you could do. If you are already depressed or completely broken down, it may take some time but if you give it a try to become happy again, it will not take you long to realise that these were all you needed to lead a fulfilling and happier life.



Smile-: Try smiling even though there is nothing funny or amusing. Try think of an event, a person or something you once smiled at. Think of a good time. Smile to people on your way, it’s very productive and positive when you smile to people and it boosts your happiness levels and chemicals. Remember; making a habit of smiling is only a process to building real and lasting happiness. It is a really great tool.

Play-: Do something fun. Try something out of the usual or just a bit extraordinary. Play games with friends; play alone on your PC or phone, play card games or just something a bit silly all for the fun of it. All these sort of activities will help free your mind of negative thoughts and release the burden of your worries. Listen to great music and enjoy every bit of the moment.

Have a good laugh-: You will wonder how you could do a good laugh without naturally being happy but I tell you can. Don’t forget that your aim is to become permanently happy or at least, be a lot happier in life than being unhappy. When you set your mind towards easing out your pains and problems, you will realise that you will generally let out the hard feelings as you voluntarily determine to make way for some happiness, thereby concentrating on some positive thoughts that will open up new channels to find joy.



Now, to more serious tools;

As earlier mentioned, you require conscious and deliberate effort if you must achieve the goal of being happy. Happiness should permeate from your inner soul through your mind, flourishing on your outer body, making you stress free. These tools are some of the more essential ones that you should gradually turn into your habits and hence, will forever stay with you.

Gratitude-You need to take time to appreciate your existence, yourself and your everyday living. If you don’t find anything to be grateful for in your life, there are chances you may not have anything to improve upon. Look deeply, certainly there will be a positive aspect of your life that you will appreciate and in effect, this will spur on more discoveries of your special blessings. Appreciate your life, celebrate it and surely more joys will spring up. Nature is one thing you could begin to appreciate, smell its freshness, inhale its possibilities and soon you will find yourself in a brighter world.

Be true to yourself- When you are true to yourself, your uniqueness shines through to the outer world and tells truth about who you are. It helps you in identifying your real self, your weaknesses and your strengths and hence, helps you work on both for your utmost happiness.

Be a person of yourself- This in essence means that you should own your mindset, own your emotions your thoughts and your feelings. Carve your position in handling your situations. Think less about what other people will think about you or your actions. Follow your heart and follow what you know is true. A lot of people have subjected themselves to greater discomfort and unhappiness because they worry about what other people will think or feel about their behaviours, situations or actions and thereby concentrate on how to please the world. This is not the same as caring for other people.

Have a great mindset- This could mean having to modify your mindset in terms of your perception of events and experiences. It is always good to have a right perception of things which ultimately puts you in control of your feelings, thoughts and actions. This may however require a change in attitudes, especially negative thinking because it breeds ill feelings. Learn to rid yourself of negative thinking particularly when a thing that may bring less happiness or complete trauma happens. Think rather of a solution. Think of positive ways to bring about change, think of the way forward, because if you sink into the grips of `perceived’ negative event, you will never get a way around it, and this unarguably will worsen your situation. Try moulding your beliefs in order to positively manage realities.

Weigh your preferences- To live happily, you have to consider your choices. This includes preferences in terms of your physical and emotional desires. It has to do with skillful choosing and careful thinking. Your decisions must be tactful and well applied. As a matter of fact you have to make preferences over your temperaments, feelings and attitudes. For example, you could choose to be happy or not, you could choose patience over anger, you could choose contentment over greed. However for the ultimate choices which give way for true happiness, you require conscious and deliberate effort. Practice makes perfect .You need to realise the realities that grants happiness. They are the virtues you have claimed through calibrating your ways into those that promotes greater self esteem, confidence, joy, fulfilment and perhaps comforting adventures.

Meditation –Meditation clears the mind and makes you stress free. It helps you answer questions right from your within and allows inspiration and right sense of thought to emanate from your subconscious. You can meditate sitting down or lying down. It is as easy as allowing your thoughts to flow without controlling them. Just allow everything to flow by until you have nothing to think about, and then begin to concentrate on your breathing and imagine your whole body relaxing.

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Lift your spirit high

There are about too many factors that can dampen your spirit and cease your energy from being as bubbly as can be, if you allow the environment to rule your world.However, taking charge of your feelings and situations is one distinction that determines the wholeness of your existence, which most be of utmost priority to you.

To actively take charge of your physical,mental and emotional well being,you have to give way for free flow of "good thinking practice" which helps you think positively and hence, act positively in relations to your normal everyday activities.

In essence, thinking good breeds eating good, good health, positive acts and generally makes you feel good.

Other ways you can help yourself be in control of your feelings are;

Believe in the goodness of your existence.

Clear your mind off your worries and concentrate on things you can do become more fulfilled and happier.

Set goals for your self.

Prioritize your steps at achieving your set goals.

Don't ever think yourself as a failure.

Do not accept defeat over any endeavour.

Keep moving,don't stop until you achieve your goal.

Believe in yourself.

Ensure you really have a passion for the activities you do before proceeding.

Remember,if you are still in doubt about any of the things I've mentioned above,

pause,take a deep breath in,hold it breathe out and rethink.

You will only fulfill your aspirations if you combine positive thoughts with matching actions.

Friends and Families

Since I launched my debut publication,(Anthology of Poems), I never thought for a second,how wonderful and supportive some family members and friends could be.The magnitude of their generosity, amazed me so much,I couldn't but keep on thanking everyone.

How suprising sometimes what you can gain from people you never imagined.No doubt this experience has given a lot to remember for a life time.Not only have I learnt,that just making other people smile is so invaluable,no money can buy the joy you spread, I have also learnt that selfless service is simply a fantastic way of life.

I will only strive to make the best of every opportunity I have to be of assistance to any person,group of persons or community I find myself around.

Anthology of Poems

The Anthology of Poems that I published has taken so long, to get to that very final but vital state.Life atleast can't be fairer.The book contains a compilation of poems written by Mutiat Adebowale and are very artistic and thought provoking.They are poems for lovers of simple poetic thoughts and can be analysed based on general poetry standards and judgements.

The poems are of different forms and styles, ranging from free versed to blank versed poems.Ballads,Epics,odes,sonnets and so on.

The poems cuts across gender,race and religion, it is a book for all people,with poems preaching peace for our world.

It is available at Amazon and http://www.zohirwords.com

Beware

I know that a lot of writers do go about looking for avenues and opportunities to get their works appreciated by having them bought, published or generally become gainfully paid for.This is of course the sole motivator that keeps most people going and indeed has become basically a single subject that perhaps will never fade off the face of the Internet.

However, there needs a level of caution to be applied when browsing the Internet in search of websites that offer to publish your wrings without adequate explanation.

Research shows that many of the sites that promises to help you get started based on you having to pay some money or leave your account details without knowing exactly what deals they have got for you are actually fraudulent.

You need to really enquire about the services they are going to deliver and ask for the modes of operation before you pay a dime.

Also, ensure to browse for complaints about any website you wish to transact such businesses with before you actually go ahead with the payment.Do emails to ask questions and state your queries correctly for the best response.

Do seek to speak to representatives of such website on the phone if there are available phone numbers but most importantly make sure you understand what you will be paying for and that it suits your requests and demands before making any payments.

Beware because there are too many SCAMS!

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